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But Wait, There’s More! Decide Now and We’ll Double Your Order

Dear Kid,

But Wait, There's More!!!“Order NOW and we’ll throw in the knife holder for FREE!!! Never mind that it’s worthless and you’ll never use it, it’s FREEEE!! And remember, this is a limited time offer, so CALL NOW!”

We’ve all heard the TV infomercial sales pitch. We’ve all joked about “But wait! There’s more!” We all know the seller of The-Item-Of-The-Moment isn’t going to lose any sleep over Order Now and We’ll Double Your Order!!!

And yet, gazillions of people rush to pick up the phone and order the skin-care-frying-crock-pot-vacuum-garden-hose of the moment. So something in the urgency of the messages is causing people to take action.

What’s interesting is that life is often like one of the Buy It NOW! commercials. Sometimes it feels like we just HAVE to make decisions, make changes, say something immediately if not sooner.

And it’s the immediately if not sooner that can sometimes cause problems.

Sure there are things that should be dealt with right away: paper cuts, accidentally stepping on someone’s foot, an overdue phone bill, studying for tomorrow’s test.

But there are many things that sometimes feel urgent, that aren’t—or at least aren’t quite as urgent as we might think they are.

It always amazes me when we go to the emergency room that we aren’t treated the way TV emergency rooms treat incoming patients. Even the one time we went in an ambulance (for Pi’s broken arm bones) things seemed to take a loooong time.

Thankfully, neither of you have ever been Severely Wounded or Requiring Life Saving Surgery, but still. We wait. We see someone and we wait more.

No matter how Concerned Mother-y I get, we wait.

I’ve learned that if the Medical Professionals don’t seemed panicked, there’s probably no reason for me to panic either EXCEPT THAT’S MY BABY WE’RE TALKING ABOUT.

Most of the time when we feel that urgency to do-act-say it’s not because there is true urgency. Generally it’s because there is true uncertainty and Doing Something will End the Uncertainty. Too often it will not end it in a good way.

The point is, when you feel that panic, that “I have to make a decision Right Now,” take a deep breath. Recognize the world will not end if wait a bit. Call someone not caught in the DoItNow mode (perhaps your mother?).

You’ll almost always make a better decision if you relax.

Love, Mom

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Good Decisions | Think Now to Be Proud of Your Choices Later

tough decisions ahead make good choicesDear Kid,

It’s Sunday morning. Dad is out weeding the Back Forty (feet, not acres). Booker is lying in the grass supervising. I’m hoping that we’ll have tomatoes before November this year, but given past experience and when the seeds went in, I’m not taking them off the grocery list just yet.

It is going to be brutally hot today, and no one has figured out how to air condition three feet around me. (You are free to steal my idea of a personal outdoor portable air conditioner, develop and market it, and keep your mother in the style to which she would like to become accustomed.) I’m toying with the idea of going out and working in the gardens anyway, but I’m leaning more toward attacking in-door chores. I thought about starting to clean out my closet, but I don’t think I’ve had all the right shots so that’s going to have to wait until I get full haz-mat gear.

Important point: it is not possible to do everything.

It is possible to do a lot, it is probably possible to do more than you think you can, but it is not possible to do everything. Living means making choices (although to be clear, it is not a choice to spend all day watching TV today).

As hard as I try, I have not managed to clone myself or be in two places at once. If anyone ever figures that out, I guarantee it will be a mom. And so we choose. We divide and conquer. We make the best decisions we can in that moment. (At least, we hope we do.)

At college, you will have to make choices. To take This Class or That Class. To go to dinner or nap. To meet with a study group or hang out with friends. To do a little work daily or try to catch up all at once. Soup or salad.

Some choices are easy. Some seem easy but have far-reaching consequences.

It’s your choice. Make it a good one.

In my experience, the more you think in advance about who you want to be and the kind of choices you want to make, the more likely you are to make choices you are happy with.

So take a few minutes, now, during college orientation, during the first week of school (or all of the above), and think about what you want to be during the next four (or so) years, about how you want people to describe you, about what you want to experience and what you don’t want to go through.

Here’s to choices you can look back on with pride.

Love, Mom


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